Ever since the very beginning of medical school I have visualised how one day I'll be able to help welcoming new lives into this world. I had imagined scenes that would sound somewhat like this: me congratulating the parents for their cute baby and they thanking me for my hard work and inviting me to take a family photo with them, whilst asking for name suggestions for the crying baby.
It's when I actually stepped into the labour rooms that I realised the process of relocating babies from the safe and ever comfortable womb to this cold and harsh world(yet warm and beautiful at the same time if you're with the right person) can be daunting, and it involves lots of human excreta, blood, tears and sweat(literally)!
Obstetrics and gynaecology are essentially about taking care of female patients. Stories of patients refusing male doctors are not uncommon in our relatively conservative society. It's a popular belief that male medical students will have a more challenging time sailing through this rotation, due to the constant need of having a female colleague as chaperone. Personally I have had my own worries and prejudices too. During the first few weeks, I would get slightly discouraged whenever I saw patients who're accompanied by husband, especially those who're not very friendly-looking ones. The nervousness in me that somehow arises upon looking at pregnant abdomens made things worse. Thankfully I have yet to encounter anyone who was unwelcoming or hostile to me. I am very grateful that most patients and their relatives that I've had the privilege to learn from are mostly kind and pleasant. As for the arts of feeling for babies' heads, I believe I've gradually gotten more comfortable with it under the guidance of brilliant tutors.
I can still vividly remember during my first oncall, there was this lady who was under my care and the progress of her labour wasn't going particularly well. She had history of two previous miscarriages and any mischance for this current pregnancy would be the last thing we wanted to expect. Despite hours of encouragement and oxytocin infusion, the poor and exhausted mother was eventually pushed into the operation theatre for an emergency caesarean section in view of foetal distress, leaving the father anxiously waiting outside, with his hands tightly clenched.(they always say the most sincere prayers are often heard in the hospitals) As a first-timer who was eager to assist his first spontaneous vaginal delivery, the fact that I probably won't be getting any signature that night for logbook was the least of my concerns. I decided to get into the theatre. I wanted to stay by her side, to continue praying that both she and baby would be safe.
I was equally anxious.
In the end it was a happy ending I guess. To be honest I can't even remember what gender the baby was(they're wrapped like dumplings), but I knew that he/she turned out well and pink. That night, I didn't manage to guard the perineum or performed a controlled cord traction, but I got my first 'thank you' from the first-time papa and mama.
The nights spent taking care of the mothers-to-be have taught me that as long as I genuinely care about the well-being of a patient, there is no reason for me to take a step back and be extra self-protective. As a reminder for my future-self, the arts of obstetrics isn't about the cervical OS size, but how much you care.
And to my mom, thank you for bringing me to this world. Making you proud is all I want to achieve in life.
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Serendipity: I got a rather random text message in the midst of my second oncall and the next day the sender delivered me my new scrub which I've donned for my next few night shifts. I would like to thank her for all the encouragements and companionship.
我想告诉你,你在我心里。
我想告诉你,你在我心里。